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Creating Household Harmony: A life system to help you manage your home

Today, I'm diving into your questions about the Household Harmony System. I'll be answering the questions - what it is, what inspired me to create it, what it includes, how long does it take to create and what challenges when implementing. Let's jump into it!

What is the Household Harmony System?

OK, let's jump right in, and that is what is the Household Harmony System? 🤔

It is taking everything out of your head 🧠. You as the household operations manager, the "doer of all things", you know how to manage the kitchen, the bathroom, the bedrooms, the grocery list, and the bills in the house.

Take all of those steps, and the things locked up in your brain, you're going to use that to formulate your Household Harmony System. From there, you'll put it in a place where your significant other or someone in your support system can come in, reference it, and help you in your time of need. They'll know how to help you because you've listed out the steps it takes for them to be able to complete the task(s). ✅

What inspired me to create the Household Harmony System?

It really came down to when I was diagnosed with my chronic illness.

I was a person, still kind of am 😜, a person who didn't ask for help. The doer of all things.

"Yeah, I can manage it."

"No, I'm fine. I got it."

"I'll take care of it."

And then I got diagnosed with my chronic illness. And it was just like a no b*tch 😤, take several seats over there, and ask them to help you take care of the house because you can't do all of it anymore 😆.

That's really, truly, what inspired me to create this system. My family have always wanted to help me. They teased me, especially my husband teased me. He's like, "I'm right here, ask for help!" And it's just like I want to, but I don't want to. It's part of the control. Secondly, it's ultimately because I know how I do it, how I've done it for us and our family. I feel like he's coming in and disrupting the flow and the Feng shui of everything, even though he's not 😂. And yes, he does it differently. It's a matter of me shutting the f*ck up and accepting the help 🤐. No matter how it looks or how it turns out.

Accepting the help. That's been the biggest part and inspiration of creating this system. Especially if I'm going through a flare up, I need the help. It has been freeing. Truly has been something lifted off of me, and not me, putting the pressure of doing everything myself. Accepting the help and being grateful for the help. Huge 🙌🏽.

What does the Household Harmony System include?

It is breaking down everything you do within the house. You're going to take a moment, get a sheet of paper, and go through each room in your house.

  • The kitchen

  • The bathroom

  • The bedroom(s)

  • The family and living rooms

Whatever the rooms you have in your household, you're going to go through each of them, and you're just going to unload all of the steps you take to maintain them. You may not remember everything right away, but a lot of it you already know as you walk around in that room all of the time.

You may also realize there are some steps, when you start unloading, that you can remove as it is no longer necessary and it's just extra steps.

Additionally, include for each room: What do you do daily? What do you do weekly? What do you monthly, quarterly and annually? Some other steps that are sections within the household harmony system is taking care of the bills and the bathroom. You can even include garbage day and what waste containers go out on the curb. Anything to do for your household, include it in your system.

How long does it take to create the Household Harmony System?

The long and the short answer, it truly depends on how simple or how detailed you want to make your system.

So if you know that taking care of the living room, for example, is just vacuuming, dusting, fluffing the pillows, and wiping down the TV then you can keep that particular section that simple. If it's something that's going to be detailed like the kitchen, you're going to have more to include. Think about how often are you washing the dishes? Do you go doing grocery shopping on a weekly, biweekly or monthly basis? How often do you wipe the counters? How often do you clean the appliances? This is where things can get super specific on how you clean it, and how often you clean it. So it really depends on how much information you put within your system and how you will like others to be able to take care of your household for you.

How do you deal with the challenges of implementing the Household Harmony System?

This is probably one of my favorite questions 😂.

If you live with others, like a roommate or significant other, or even if it's somebody coming over to help or if you're giving it to a house manager, there can/will be some challenges.

I hope, at least with the house manager, they follow your system to a "T". They're coming in to help you, and they're getting paid by you. So if they want their money, they need to follow everything you have in your Household Harmony System.

On the other hand, if it's a significant other, a family member or someone else in your support system, it can get hard. This is something that I've had to check myself. Honestly, the number one thing is communication. You're going to need to get that communication within the system anyway when you're asking for feedback.

However you choose to keep the communication going, they have to be open to criticism and feedback on how they're doing within the household system. You also need to be open to criticism and feedback. If they're doing the dishes, they load the dishwasher a certain way, and you're very particular about it, let it go. Don't get me wrong, I'll admit because I can get nitpicky about it too, but you let them do it. Because the biggest part about creating it is having a little bit more time and energy in your day.

They took the time out of their day to come and help you. They didn't have to do it. Whether they live with you or not, be grateful that for that extra five, 10, 60 minutes or two hours. However long it took them to complete that task, that's you getting your time back. Be grateful, always find the little things to be grateful for, and that is one of them.

Final Thoughts

Creating a Household Harmony System can really be a game changer. It's all about asking for help and willing to share tasks and responsibilities. By breaking down chores and outlining how to take care of each part of your home, you can get some breathing room back into your daily life. The goal is to free up time and energy while graciously accepting the support you get.

Why not start setting up your Household Harmony System today with my free Life Systems Blueprint 👇🏽 and see how it positively impacts your day-to-day. ≈

Until the next post,

Michelle 🥰🧡


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